Tom Bolls(He/Him/His)

Tom Bolls is a licensed therapist in Washington State who specializes in virtual couples therapy for partners who feel stuck in painful, repeating cycles. He works with couples experiencing chronic conflict, emotional disconnection, power struggles, trust injuries, and intimacy challenges. Many of the couples he supports are thoughtful and motivated, yet find that communication tools alone haven’t been enough to create lasting change. They often come to therapy feeling discouraged, polarized, or unsure how to move forward together.

Tom’s approach to couples therapy is trauma-informed, attachment-based, and experiential. Rather than focusing only on communication techniques, he helps couples understand the emotional and nervous-system patterns driving their conflicts. Sessions focus on slowing down reactive cycles, increasing emotional safety, and helping each partner develop greater awareness of their own protective strategies. Drawing from attachment theory, EMDR-informed work, and depth psychology, Tom supports couples in building emotional capacity, flexibility, and genuine connection.

With over 20 years of clinical experience, Tom brings a steady, engaged presence to couples work. He has advanced training in trauma treatment and attachment-based couples therapy, along with a long-standing interest in Jungian and archetypal psychology as a way of understanding relational patterns. He is known for being active and attuned in sessions—balancing compassion with clarity—helping couples feel both supported and gently challenged as they work toward change.

Tom offers secure telehealth couples therapy throughout Washington State, allowing partners to attend sessions from the comfort of their own home. He works exclusively with couples and offers extended session lengths when clinically appropriate to support deeper work. New clients are invited to schedule a complimentary 30-minute consultation to determine fit and discuss goals for therapy.