Mar Ortmann(She/Her/Hers)

Clients who work with Mar Ortmann tend to be thoughtful, curious and motivated to create healthier, more fulfilling intimate lives. They may be navigating ethical non-monogamy, rebuilding trust after challenges, addressing desire discrepancies, exploring kink, or seeking clarity around sexual identity and expression. Many are individuals, couples or polycules longing for more connection, communication, and confidence. Others are facing life transitions such as menopause, managing neurodivergence or recovering from sexual trauma and want a compassionate guide who understands the complexity of modern relationships.

Mar’s therapeutic approach centers on sex-positive, affirming, collaborative work that blends emotional insight with practical tools. Sessions prioritize safety, warmth and honest exploration, helping clients understand their patterns, articulate their needs and build resilience in themselves and their relationships. Drawing from evidence-based modalities and a deep respect for each client’s unique sexual and relational makeup, Mar emphasizes consent, attunement and shame-free dialogue. Her goal isn’t just symptom relief—it’s cultivating relationships that feel alive, aligned and sustainably nurturing.

Professionally, Mar brings a rich background in relationship counseling, sex therapy and the nuanced dynamics of non-traditional relationship structures. Her experience includes working with couples in crisis, individuals healing from trauma and communities engaged in kink and consensual non-monogamy. With advanced training in sexuality, attachment, trauma-informed care and communication frameworks, Mar offers both a grounded clinical foundation and a culturally informed approach to diverse identities and relationship styles.

Her practice is based in Emeryville, conveniently located for clients traveling from Oakland, Berkeley, San Francisco and the greater East Bay. In-person sessions are available in a comfortable, private office designed to support openness and ease. Remote therapy is also offered for clients anywhere in California, making ongoing support accessible even with busy schedules or changing life demands. Flexible appointment times—including some evenings—allow clients to find care that fits their lives without added stress.